Although, parenting can be one of life’s most joyful and rewarding experiences, quite often it can also be very challenging and stressful. As a parent there will be times when the demands and hassles of everyday living will mount and cause overwhelming stress. Some of the pressures can include: financial matters, family and marital life, problems on the job. The additional stress of caring for children can, at times, make parents feel angry, anxious and/or have the need to take a break from daily pressures and relax. Tensions and feelings are a normal and inevitable part of family life, but many parents can take it to the extreme. They need to learn ways to cope before it is too late.
Stress can potentially interfere with the parent/child relationship. Parents who have not learned to manage stress effectively tend to be less tolerant of their children’s behaviors and actions and are less emotionally available for them in times of need. Children often react to parental stress by specifically changing the ways they interact with their caretakers. Parents who react irrational can put children at an increased risk of being stressed themselves.
It can be argued that pressure is a positive thing leading to greater productivity; however, excessive stress can be detrimental to an individual’s physical and mental well being and can also significantly contribute to irritability, depression, and low self-esteem for the parent and their child. Michelle Borden, Associate Executive Director of New Bridge Services, a nonprofit mental health organization that provides services and programs for today’s youth, teens, adults and seniors, said, “ The effectiveness of a parent’s ability to cope with mounting daily pressures has significant implications not only for them, but also for their child.”
What people must realize is that feelings of stress come from inside ourselves and that we can learn to keep our reactions under control. One way to reduce stress is to exercise regularly. Many activities offer the benefit of stress relief, however many are seasonal, and may also become affected by the weather. The martial arts can be practiced year round, and it is a great form of exercise for people of all ages. Many people think the martial arts is just punching, kicking and blocking. Besides learning self-defense, martial arts practitioners develop self-confidence, self-respect, self-awareness, self-control and relaxation techniques.
Students also learn how to focus and breathe properly which not only improves circulation, but it also provides additional stress relief. Martial arts training fully involve both mental and physical aspects, thus forcing students to focus on the present and to leave worldly concerns behind. Punching, kicking and striking exercises permit a controlled release of tension and aggression, which allows students to leave behind any negative emotions that they may have carried into the martial arts training area.”
Martial arts practitioners learn that anger and frustrations prevents clear thinking and the loss of self-control. As a result they learn to control themselves and their surroundings physically and mentally. Learning to focus on what is at hand and managing their own emotions as well as others will not only reduce parents’ stress levels, but it will also help them accomplish professional and personal goals.
The described benefits of martial arts training may not make stress disappear, but it can help parents take more control of the stress around them. When parenting deals some unexpected challenges or lessons to learn, often it is not so much the situation or event, but how it is handled that helps parents cope.